That being said, I'm SERIOUSLY tired of people telling me how I HAVE TO get one! And that I'm somehow denying my children of Christmastime happiness. If I say something as simple as, "Nah, we're not really that into it, I don't think we'll be getting one" I get greeted with, "What's WRONG with you?! Are you some kind of grinch? Do you buy your children Christmas presents?" No, I'm not kidding...I have gotten all 3 responses to me simply stating that I don't want to partake, or asking that somebody please not buy us one.
So my friends, here are the reasons that I don't want to/won't participate in this elf business.
First of all, people break these things out waaaayyy too early. In general Christmas in happening earlier and earlier each year. I am a big believer that nothing should be Christmas-ey until after Thanksgiving. It can even be ON Thanksgiving that the festivities start, but this day after Halloween thing is BS if you ask me. Part of the reason the holiday season is so wonderful is because it is for a limited amount of time..extend it and it loses the magic. It becomes humdrum, everyday.
|Do you really want this in your kids' room?|
|I think this is where Elf will end up|
#4. I have nothing against bribery. I fully admit to using it myself in times of desperation (haircuts for R, bloodtests for K, etc.). However, there is a flaw to the bribery with the Elf on a Shelf; Unless you keep it out year-round (please God, NO!) it is only good seasonally. If you rely on the Elf to help with discipline or other learning moments, how do you function the other 11 months out of the year? And I'm not of the persuasion that bribing your kids to be good for Christmas so they can get toys and countless other things that they don't need is a good idea. If you subscribe to the whole Santa part of Christmas I think it's a bad idea in general to make kids think that they might not be "good enough" to have those magical moments. Let's face it - there is a shelf-life on the Santa believing. I'd rather my kids enjoy every last second of it that they can. Sure, I might throw a comment here or there in desperation like, "Don't forget - Santa's watching you. If you hit your brother again he's not going to be too happy..." but I would never want to lead them to believe that they might not get a visit from Santa, or that the only reason they should not hit each other is so that they can get presents. It's important to learn the reasoning behind whatever behavior you're trying to deal with and get your child to listen to you, not just appease us for the reward.
So there you have it. I will not Elf. Please don't try to make me feel bad about it. By all means, if you enjoy this tradition, have fun with it. If it works for you that's great, I would never want to take that away from you. But don't tell me there's something wrong with me for not embracing it, and PLEASE don't buy my kids one.