I think I'm having attachment issues.
I've been in this weird place lately where I have been struggling to define myself outside of being Mommy to someone. "Struggling" is a bad word for what I'm feeling though. It's not a struggle, I am not unhappy per se, just a little lost. For the past almost 3 years, I have been either pregnant or nursing. My body has not been entirely my own, and everything I do to it, everything I put into it, every decision I make effects another human being in one way or another. In a lot of ways I stand in awe of myself because my body -- MY body -- sustained another human life entirely for quite some time, in the womb & outside. What I have been able to do is fantastic & I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world.
But because of those decisions, I haven't been away from my daughter for more than a few hours at a time. I'm actually kind of proud of that - I was there for all of her firsts. I watched them myself & didn't have to hear about them from someone else. I am there when she goes to sleep at night & I am there when she wakes up in the morning. She is my world. Of course, it is also healthy for both myself & K for me to go out and have some separate time from her. As mothers we need a mental break every now & then to gather ourselves & regroup, and our children need to experience their world without us right there beside them. And while I have taken advantage of some "alone" time in the past, it has usually just consisted of a few hours out in the evening, or an extra hour or two of sleep on a weekend morning. It never occurred to me to spend an entire night out somewhere, and it hasn't really been an option in the past because K was still nursing.
But she's not anymore. She's not nursing & I don't HAVE TO spend as much time with her. Realizing this & knowing that I won't have an opportunity like this again for at least another year or so, I made plans to visit my cousin in NYC for her birthday - My first overnight trip away from my daughter EVER, and an entire 24 hours to just be me, as an adult. Without having to worry about anyone else but me. I was really looking forward to the mental break.
Until I actually thought about it. I haven't spent an entire night away from my daughter since she has been born. Do I really want to do that now? I knew she would be fine, leaving her in the capable arms of Laura, my wife & K's Marmy. It wasn't her care I was worried about. But the thought of sleeping in a completely different building in a totally different state as K was making me very emotional & I didn't know why at first. But it's because she's becoming independent from me and a part of me feels like I am already about to lose her, so why spend any more time away from her than I have to? Since weaning, she has pushed me to the side in a way. She is reaching for Laura more & more and is not as dependent on me. So I am trying to cherish the little time that is left with just her & I at home before Baby #2 arrives. It won't be long before I can't give her 100% of my attention because there will be a new baby to care for. It won't be long before she doesn't want to nap with me anymore (and I don't know if I will be able to nap with her once a sibling comes into the mix). It won't be long before she starts preschool & starts learning things & spending a larger amount of time away from me. It won't be long before she grows up. Realizing all of that, do I really have to spend a night away from her now?
I kept hearing, "She'll be fine, just go & enjoy yourself" or "You need to do this for you, you won't have a chance to do this for a while". But the truth is, I didn't WANT to spend the night away. It was causing me more emotional stress than it was worth just thinking about being away from her for that long. I had a similar issue when she was much younger & still nursing. I would go out for a few hours in the evening, but my head would never really be where I was physically. I was constantly wondering how K was, is she hungry, is she taking a bottle, should I have pumped before I left, and sometimes it was more mentally & emotionally draining to be away from her than it was rewarding or healthy for me. It wasn't worth the effort or worry because I wasn't getting out of the night what I should have been. It wasn't really a break & I didn't feel any better for it.
Faced with the same dilemma regarding a sleepover, I decided against it. Yes, I wanted a break. Yes, I needed to get away on my own for some time to be just me. But I did not need to have a sleepover to achieve that. Just a long day would suffice. And if I'm not ready to do an overnight away from my daughter then I shouldn't do it, regardless of what others think is "good" for me. I know what's good for me and what I can handle, and I can't handle an overnight yet, and that's OK. There is plenty of time for that in the future.
As with all things, there has to be a balance. Alone time is great & healthy for everyone. But not if it causes stress. The reward must be greater than the sacrifice for it to be beneficial, otherwise it defeats the purpose. And for me, right now, it is worth it & healthy to spend a very long day & late night in NYC as me. But a sleepover would defeat the purpose.
Have you had a situation where you needed to re-evaluate what was beneficial and what was detrimental? How did you decide where that fine line was?
Thursday, February 17, 2011
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
The Great Wipe Debate
Apparently there is a big debate going on over whether or not to use cloth or disposable wipes. Is it worth it? Do they work as well? Is it something I should be doing? So I decided to weigh in on the issue.
The truth is that I am torn. As with anything, there are pros & cons to using cloth wipes. I think it ends up coming down to what is most important to you and what works best for your lifestyle.
The Pros:
1. Less waste. Anything that is reusable instead of disposable has this advantage, so this should be no surprise here. It also means less guilt about having to use several wipes in one change. If your spouse is like mine, they use one entire wipe per swipe of the tush, which can add up pretty quickly. So in the end, it's a financial saver as well.
2. No digging through icky mess to remove the disposable wipes before tossing into the diaper pail. When there is a big mess, it is much easier to be able to toss everything into the pail all together. With disposable wipes you really shouldn't be putting them through your washer/dryer, so you would have to remove them to toss into the trash before dumping the diaper. This can be quite a messy situation.
The Cons:
(I should preface this section by saying that I am not using actual flannel cloth wipes. I received a money saving tip that using baby washcloths works just as well & they are much, much cheaper than the wipes are. So I think that some of these "cons" might be reduced by using cloth wipes actually intended to be wipes.)
1. I feel that they are harsher on my baby's bum than disposable wipes. Not the solution I am using, but the material of the wipe itself. I feel that it is more abrasive than I would like. I have used the non-scrubbing side of the washcloths & I still feel it's not as gentle as it could be. I do plan on purchasing some flannel wipes with Baby #2, and I think that might help with this.
2. They stain fairly easily. Shouldn't be a big deal, but this makes me not want to use them for other messes, such as pasta sauce on my daughter's face. The cloth wipes should be versatile so that you can eliminate all disposable wipe use entirely. But I am not comfortable wiping my daughter's face with something that has a poop stain on it. Even though I know it's perfectly clean. So I still buy disposable wipes to handle the other messes, and I carry 2 wipe cases in the diaper bag when I'm going out. I have considered buying a set of wipes & designating it for "other" uses and not for diapers, but I think it would get confusing while out & about & everything would end up mixed-up together anyway, and it's not eliminating the need to carry around 2 wipes cases.
The Unclear:
1. They can get expensive initially, on average about $1 a wipe - the same cost as a prefold diaper. As I mentioned before, someone gave me a tip to use baby washcloths instead and it did save me a lot of money, about 1/4 of the cost. Instead of $12 for 12 wipes, I paid $3 for 12 washcloths. But I am not 100% satisfied with my wipes, so maybe it is worth it to break down & buy the flannel ones.
2. Many people claim that cloth wipes clean your baby's bottom better. I don't feel that either one cleans any better than the other. Some moms claim that they can clean up a big poopy mess with 1 cloth wipe as opposed to 4 or 5 disposable wipes. I don't agree with this. If it's a big mess, I am going to be using more than one wipe so that I feel that my child's bottom is clean enough, regardless of whether it's disposable or cloth. I think the clean-up difference is in the diapers; I think that some cloth diapers wipe the poop off the butt better than disposables, but it depends on the diaper & it depends on the poop. We all know that some poops are just explosive & it's a project to clean them up! However, I do enjoy that clean-up can be a mini bath on her bottom. I make our wipe solution at home out of mixture of water & very tiny amount of gentle soap. So if she's particularly dirty, I can get the wipe really wet & fight the urge to toss her in the tub for while!
3. I find that you can't let clean wet wipes sit for very long without them getting that milew-ey, wet sponge smell. As I have said previously, I am a smell person and bad smells make me crazy. So this was something I had to play with. I didn't like spraying the wipe or K's bum with a pre-mixed solution - I just didn't think it got clean enough. So wetting them before the change was the way to go for us. I find that you can have wet wipes around for about 2 days before they start to stink, and can usually push it to 3 days if I have to. So every morning I douse a number of wipes with water & that gentle soap and store them in the travel case. If I overestimate, I can just use them the next day before I wet any more, but I have to make sure I use them first. So another part of the CD routine to add. Not really a positive or a negative, just another thing to consider.
So overall, I am undecided on how I feel. I will continue to use my cloth wipes because I have them & they work fine enough. I do look forward to the softer wipes with Baby #2, but K is almost out of diapers so I am not investing any more money into CD-ing for her.
How about you? Do you use cloth wipes? If so, what do you like & dislike about them?
The truth is that I am torn. As with anything, there are pros & cons to using cloth wipes. I think it ends up coming down to what is most important to you and what works best for your lifestyle.
The Pros:1. Less waste. Anything that is reusable instead of disposable has this advantage, so this should be no surprise here. It also means less guilt about having to use several wipes in one change. If your spouse is like mine, they use one entire wipe per swipe of the tush, which can add up pretty quickly. So in the end, it's a financial saver as well.
2. No digging through icky mess to remove the disposable wipes before tossing into the diaper pail. When there is a big mess, it is much easier to be able to toss everything into the pail all together. With disposable wipes you really shouldn't be putting them through your washer/dryer, so you would have to remove them to toss into the trash before dumping the diaper. This can be quite a messy situation.
The Cons:(I should preface this section by saying that I am not using actual flannel cloth wipes. I received a money saving tip that using baby washcloths works just as well & they are much, much cheaper than the wipes are. So I think that some of these "cons" might be reduced by using cloth wipes actually intended to be wipes.)
1. I feel that they are harsher on my baby's bum than disposable wipes. Not the solution I am using, but the material of the wipe itself. I feel that it is more abrasive than I would like. I have used the non-scrubbing side of the washcloths & I still feel it's not as gentle as it could be. I do plan on purchasing some flannel wipes with Baby #2, and I think that might help with this.
2. They stain fairly easily. Shouldn't be a big deal, but this makes me not want to use them for other messes, such as pasta sauce on my daughter's face. The cloth wipes should be versatile so that you can eliminate all disposable wipe use entirely. But I am not comfortable wiping my daughter's face with something that has a poop stain on it. Even though I know it's perfectly clean. So I still buy disposable wipes to handle the other messes, and I carry 2 wipe cases in the diaper bag when I'm going out. I have considered buying a set of wipes & designating it for "other" uses and not for diapers, but I think it would get confusing while out & about & everything would end up mixed-up together anyway, and it's not eliminating the need to carry around 2 wipes cases.
The Unclear:
1. They can get expensive initially, on average about $1 a wipe - the same cost as a prefold diaper. As I mentioned before, someone gave me a tip to use baby washcloths instead and it did save me a lot of money, about 1/4 of the cost. Instead of $12 for 12 wipes, I paid $3 for 12 washcloths. But I am not 100% satisfied with my wipes, so maybe it is worth it to break down & buy the flannel ones.
2. Many people claim that cloth wipes clean your baby's bottom better. I don't feel that either one cleans any better than the other. Some moms claim that they can clean up a big poopy mess with 1 cloth wipe as opposed to 4 or 5 disposable wipes. I don't agree with this. If it's a big mess, I am going to be using more than one wipe so that I feel that my child's bottom is clean enough, regardless of whether it's disposable or cloth. I think the clean-up difference is in the diapers; I think that some cloth diapers wipe the poop off the butt better than disposables, but it depends on the diaper & it depends on the poop. We all know that some poops are just explosive & it's a project to clean them up! However, I do enjoy that clean-up can be a mini bath on her bottom. I make our wipe solution at home out of mixture of water & very tiny amount of gentle soap. So if she's particularly dirty, I can get the wipe really wet & fight the urge to toss her in the tub for while!
3. I find that you can't let clean wet wipes sit for very long without them getting that milew-ey, wet sponge smell. As I have said previously, I am a smell person and bad smells make me crazy. So this was something I had to play with. I didn't like spraying the wipe or K's bum with a pre-mixed solution - I just didn't think it got clean enough. So wetting them before the change was the way to go for us. I find that you can have wet wipes around for about 2 days before they start to stink, and can usually push it to 3 days if I have to. So every morning I douse a number of wipes with water & that gentle soap and store them in the travel case. If I overestimate, I can just use them the next day before I wet any more, but I have to make sure I use them first. So another part of the CD routine to add. Not really a positive or a negative, just another thing to consider.
So overall, I am undecided on how I feel. I will continue to use my cloth wipes because I have them & they work fine enough. I do look forward to the softer wipes with Baby #2, but K is almost out of diapers so I am not investing any more money into CD-ing for her.
How about you? Do you use cloth wipes? If so, what do you like & dislike about them?
Thursday, January 27, 2011
Mommy "Misery" Blogging - Unhealthy For All
There seems to be a trend going on with mom bloggers lately, and I am not a big fan. There is this ongoing purge of negative feelings & self pity presenting itself in a number of the blogs that I follow. It's not the venting of struggles that I mind, it's that it goes on for weeks at a time, taking over several posts.
Yes, motherhood comes with many challenges. Some we are made well aware of before taking the plunge, like lack of sleep, leaky poopy diapers, and endless mounds of laundry. Others are a complete unwelcome surprise to us, amidst our sleepless, hormonally challenged haze of existence. No one told me it would take me over 3 weeks to heal after delivery (turns out that is abnormal). No one told me that if your nipples are bleeding during those early nursing days it is possible for your newborn to spit up blood all over you. And most of all, nobody told me that some of the choices I would make might be the more difficult routes, and others might make me feel, "Well, this is what I chose. I deserve to be miserable" because of them.
And yes, we should be able to let our feelings out. It is important to feel that we are not alone in our struggles and know that there is someone else out there going through the same thing we are, especially in cases of complications. As moms, we do need the support of other moms instead of the judgment, instead of the competitive glaze of faux perfection leering down at us from upturned noses. But it is also important to let go of the sadness & self pity and move on.
Once we feel that sadness and start feeling sorry for ourselves, it is very easy to get stuck in a cycle where we are actually making ourselves feel worse. And unhappy mommys mean unhappy babies & partners. I'm not saying to bottle everything up or that every day should be sunshine & rainbows. Acknowledge that there is a struggle, get the emotion out, and then move on. Figure out a solution or a way to get past it and find something positive to focus on.
The reason I bring any of this up is because I am finding myself at a strange crossroads that I did not think would have as much of an emotional impact as it is having on me. Since the summer of 2008 I have been either pregnant or breastfeeding. I am finally at a point with my daughter where I have some of my 0wn freedom, however I am halfway through my second pregnancy & I know that the small amount of freedom I have gained is going to be taken away once Baby #2 gets here. If I sit and let it get to me, it can be very depressing. It is easy to slip into that selfish mode and dwell on the fact that I have not been allowed to completely be my own person for almost 2 years. I have been at home alone. We live an hour away from most of our friends & family. It has been very isolating. I miss the simplicities of my old routine, like a morning radio show accompanied by a latte, knowing that I would see the same people every day when I got to work. I miss having clothes that actually fit me and a little extra money to buy ones that do. It could be very easy to let that get me down day after day, and I almost let it. So instead of focusing on what I am missing out on, I need to see everything that I have gained!! I will not add to the overwhelming blog negativity of SAHM's!! Instead, I will post this about my current situation:
I have not worked in almost 2 years, and we are still alive!! Our house has not been foreclosed on, we still have our cars in our possession, and we are not at risk of losing any of those things anytime soon. And had I stayed at my old job, I would have been laid off by now anyway as the office closed. I have not been away from my daughter for more than a few hours at a time, and when I have she has been in the care of either family members or very close friends. I have been able to see all of her major milestones myself. K nursed for 18 months; although it was very trying at times, I am amazed that I was able to hang in there for that long, and she has exhibited many signs that she is all the better for it. And while I will miss being able to be "myself" for a few hours at a time, I also currently miss the bond that nursing brought us & I look forward to having that back with Baby #2. The next few years will be rough, but once they grow up, that is it. This special time I have with however many children we are blessed with is limited & I will cherish it for however long I am able to do so. But I have to take advantage of it now, while I can. There will be plenty of time for lattes and radio shows, but afternoon naps on the couch together are fleeting.
Whatever your struggle, whatever your situation, you are not alone & there is an end in sight. Things will get better, but you have to believe that in order to get out of the negative headspace. You need to see the good that is in your situation as it is now - I promise you it is there.
Yes, motherhood comes with many challenges. Some we are made well aware of before taking the plunge, like lack of sleep, leaky poopy diapers, and endless mounds of laundry. Others are a complete unwelcome surprise to us, amidst our sleepless, hormonally challenged haze of existence. No one told me it would take me over 3 weeks to heal after delivery (turns out that is abnormal). No one told me that if your nipples are bleeding during those early nursing days it is possible for your newborn to spit up blood all over you. And most of all, nobody told me that some of the choices I would make might be the more difficult routes, and others might make me feel, "Well, this is what I chose. I deserve to be miserable" because of them.
And yes, we should be able to let our feelings out. It is important to feel that we are not alone in our struggles and know that there is someone else out there going through the same thing we are, especially in cases of complications. As moms, we do need the support of other moms instead of the judgment, instead of the competitive glaze of faux perfection leering down at us from upturned noses. But it is also important to let go of the sadness & self pity and move on.Once we feel that sadness and start feeling sorry for ourselves, it is very easy to get stuck in a cycle where we are actually making ourselves feel worse. And unhappy mommys mean unhappy babies & partners. I'm not saying to bottle everything up or that every day should be sunshine & rainbows. Acknowledge that there is a struggle, get the emotion out, and then move on. Figure out a solution or a way to get past it and find something positive to focus on.
The reason I bring any of this up is because I am finding myself at a strange crossroads that I did not think would have as much of an emotional impact as it is having on me. Since the summer of 2008 I have been either pregnant or breastfeeding. I am finally at a point with my daughter where I have some of my 0wn freedom, however I am halfway through my second pregnancy & I know that the small amount of freedom I have gained is going to be taken away once Baby #2 gets here. If I sit and let it get to me, it can be very depressing. It is easy to slip into that selfish mode and dwell on the fact that I have not been allowed to completely be my own person for almost 2 years. I have been at home alone. We live an hour away from most of our friends & family. It has been very isolating. I miss the simplicities of my old routine, like a morning radio show accompanied by a latte, knowing that I would see the same people every day when I got to work. I miss having clothes that actually fit me and a little extra money to buy ones that do. It could be very easy to let that get me down day after day, and I almost let it. So instead of focusing on what I am missing out on, I need to see everything that I have gained!! I will not add to the overwhelming blog negativity of SAHM's!! Instead, I will post this about my current situation:
I have not worked in almost 2 years, and we are still alive!! Our house has not been foreclosed on, we still have our cars in our possession, and we are not at risk of losing any of those things anytime soon. And had I stayed at my old job, I would have been laid off by now anyway as the office closed. I have not been away from my daughter for more than a few hours at a time, and when I have she has been in the care of either family members or very close friends. I have been able to see all of her major milestones myself. K nursed for 18 months; although it was very trying at times, I am amazed that I was able to hang in there for that long, and she has exhibited many signs that she is all the better for it. And while I will miss being able to be "myself" for a few hours at a time, I also currently miss the bond that nursing brought us & I look forward to having that back with Baby #2. The next few years will be rough, but once they grow up, that is it. This special time I have with however many children we are blessed with is limited & I will cherish it for however long I am able to do so. But I have to take advantage of it now, while I can. There will be plenty of time for lattes and radio shows, but afternoon naps on the couch together are fleeting.Whatever your struggle, whatever your situation, you are not alone & there is an end in sight. Things will get better, but you have to believe that in order to get out of the negative headspace. You need to see the good that is in your situation as it is now - I promise you it is there.
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
Ammonia Problems & HE Washers
Sorry for the lapse in posting folks! I know that all 6 of you have been anxiously awaiting the arrival of my latest thoughts, ha! My half-dozen readers :) The end of 2010 brought with it lots of excitement; some good, some interesting challenges & some not so good.
Our first "interesting challenge" was when we developed an ammonia problem with our diapers. I had deduced that it stems from us using dryer sheets with some of our other laundry loads. They create a build-up inside your dryer which transfers onto your clothing. Normally this isn't a problem for regular clothes & blankets, etc. But with cloth diapers, build-up = ammonia stink and can lead to leakage problems down the road. It also causes rashes on those sensitive baby bums (probably part of the rash issue I was having). The easy solution was to clean out the dryer & discontinue the use of dryer sheets altogether but I certainly wasn't ready to do that! We have waaaaayyy too much static in our house during the winter & I am not willing to suffer through it or make anyone else do so. Plus, I'm a smell person. Not only do bad smells greatly upset me, but they have different meanings to me. I LOVE the way our dryer sheets smell and the way the clothes smell right after they come out. It brings me right back to my childhood & wrapping myself up in a nice clean blanket, fresh out of the dryer. It's a comforting constant for me. I have associated that feeling and smell with clean laundry & I want to be able to experience that still and possibly have my children experience the same. So I needed to find another solution.
I tried bleach first. It did get rid of the ammonia smell but it came right back. I did not want to be bleaching the diapers every time I washed them, nor is it recommended to do so. I needed something that I could use with every wash, that was environmentally friendly, that wouldn't destroy the diapers after x amount of uses, and that wouldn't add any time to my already 2 hour wash/dry routine. My research turned up Dawn. Yup, a few drops of regular blue Dawn dish detergent in the initial rinse cycle. This solved the problem right away, kept the ammonia stink from coming back & best of all it was really easy and I didn't have to change anything about my wash routine! Yay! Bliss for about 2 weeks!
Because our second "interesting challenge" came about when our beloved washing machine went kaput the day before Christmas Eve. We had no choice but to replace it, and luckily there were some fantastic sales the day after Christmas. After much debating, we decided to purchase our first HE washer/dryer set. I was a bit apprehensive at first because I remember reading about some people having difficulties with washing cloth diapers in them because they use significantly less water, but I also knew that there were plenty of people who got through it so I was prepared to do some research. It has taken a while, and we did have a lot of problems getting into a routine that worked for us, but I think we have found something.
The first wash I did like I would have done normally in the regular machine. Cold rinse with a few drops of Dawn. Hot wash cycle with Rockin' Green detergent and cold rinse with nothing. Then an extra cold rinse, again with nothing. The new machine has a setting to automatically add an extra rinse to any wash that you do, and there is also a cycle that is just a rinse & spin. You would think that this would make things easier, but really it just made everything more confusing, especially since that first load came out still stinking of ammonia! Then I followed advice to try a full normal cycle with a few drops of Dawn in the liquid soap dispenser & white vinegar in the fabric softener dispenser, followed by a "Sanitize" cycle (the washer heats the water up to 150 degrees killing any bacteria that may be in the diapers) with the Rockin' Green, and then a rinse & spin cycle, adding an extra rinse to each load. This did work for the stink, but it took me 6 hours just to get everything into the dryer!! The Sanitize cycle alone is almost 2 hours long! This was not going to work at all. I tried every suggestion I could find. I tried regular Tide for HE machines even though it is usually considered a HUGE no-no for CD-ing. I tried white vinegar. I tried extra rinses, extra detergent, different detergents, low or no spins. I bought a diaper spray (not a diaper sprayer - a microbial spray that you spritz on every diaper before you toss it in the pail), I bleached, I tried an ammonia bouncer.
And then I took the best advice I have found so far: STOP OVER-THINKING!! The CD industry has decided somewhere along the line that caring for diapers has to be a rocket science; a delicate process that can easily be interfered with by the littlest additive or chemical imbalance. Women have been using & washing cloth diapers for years & years without worrying about half of this. They did not buy different detergent. They did not spend hours laboring over the laundry. They did not have the internet to research the million different ways we can make ourselves crazy. They kept it simple. Obviously I have to account for changes during the advent of HE appliances, but I need to chill out.
One normal cold wash with ammonia bouncer & Dawn. No spins, no extra anything. One normal hot wash with detergent (sometimes Rockin Green with a scent because it smells nice, sometimes Tide, sometimes whatever I feel like. But switch it up - don't stick with one thing for too long). No spins. One cold rinse & spin with nothing. That's it. That's my routine & I have everything in the dryer in about 2 hours. It's a little longer than my original routine with a regular washer but I can live with it because once everything is in the dryer I can leave it be & not worry about it until later that night. While I prefer to do it all in one foul swoop & have everything folded & put away in the morning, it's not the end of the world to fold & put away later at night (with the help of my wife if she's willing!) If I have extra time & feel inclined, I will do a Sanitize wash maybe once a month.
The moral of the story? As with many things in life, keep it simple. There are a million things we have made more complicated with "advances", from talking on the phone to making food to washing diapers. Life is supposed to be easy and the best way to reaiz e that is to keep things simple.
What have you simplified in your life?
Our first "interesting challenge" was when we developed an ammonia problem with our diapers. I had deduced that it stems from us using dryer sheets with some of our other laundry loads. They create a build-up inside your dryer which transfers onto your clothing. Normally this isn't a problem for regular clothes & blankets, etc. But with cloth diapers, build-up = ammonia stink and can lead to leakage problems down the road. It also causes rashes on those sensitive baby bums (probably part of the rash issue I was having). The easy solution was to clean out the dryer & discontinue the use of dryer sheets altogether but I certainly wasn't ready to do that! We have waaaaayyy too much static in our house during the winter & I am not willing to suffer through it or make anyone else do so. Plus, I'm a smell person. Not only do bad smells greatly upset me, but they have different meanings to me. I LOVE the way our dryer sheets smell and the way the clothes smell right after they come out. It brings me right back to my childhood & wrapping myself up in a nice clean blanket, fresh out of the dryer. It's a comforting constant for me. I have associated that feeling and smell with clean laundry & I want to be able to experience that still and possibly have my children experience the same. So I needed to find another solution.
I tried bleach first. It did get rid of the ammonia smell but it came right back. I did not want to be bleaching the diapers every time I washed them, nor is it recommended to do so. I needed something that I could use with every wash, that was environmentally friendly, that wouldn't destroy the diapers after x amount of uses, and that wouldn't add any time to my already 2 hour wash/dry routine. My research turned up Dawn. Yup, a few drops of regular blue Dawn dish detergent in the initial rinse cycle. This solved the problem right away, kept the ammonia stink from coming back & best of all it was really easy and I didn't have to change anything about my wash routine! Yay! Bliss for about 2 weeks!
Because our second "interesting challenge" came about when our beloved washing machine went kaput the day before Christmas Eve. We had no choice but to replace it, and luckily there were some fantastic sales the day after Christmas. After much debating, we decided to purchase our first HE washer/dryer set. I was a bit apprehensive at first because I remember reading about some people having difficulties with washing cloth diapers in them because they use significantly less water, but I also knew that there were plenty of people who got through it so I was prepared to do some research. It has taken a while, and we did have a lot of problems getting into a routine that worked for us, but I think we have found something.
The first wash I did like I would have done normally in the regular machine. Cold rinse with a few drops of Dawn. Hot wash cycle with Rockin' Green detergent and cold rinse with nothing. Then an extra cold rinse, again with nothing. The new machine has a setting to automatically add an extra rinse to any wash that you do, and there is also a cycle that is just a rinse & spin. You would think that this would make things easier, but really it just made everything more confusing, especially since that first load came out still stinking of ammonia! Then I followed advice to try a full normal cycle with a few drops of Dawn in the liquid soap dispenser & white vinegar in the fabric softener dispenser, followed by a "Sanitize" cycle (the washer heats the water up to 150 degrees killing any bacteria that may be in the diapers) with the Rockin' Green, and then a rinse & spin cycle, adding an extra rinse to each load. This did work for the stink, but it took me 6 hours just to get everything into the dryer!! The Sanitize cycle alone is almost 2 hours long! This was not going to work at all. I tried every suggestion I could find. I tried regular Tide for HE machines even though it is usually considered a HUGE no-no for CD-ing. I tried white vinegar. I tried extra rinses, extra detergent, different detergents, low or no spins. I bought a diaper spray (not a diaper sprayer - a microbial spray that you spritz on every diaper before you toss it in the pail), I bleached, I tried an ammonia bouncer.
And then I took the best advice I have found so far: STOP OVER-THINKING!! The CD industry has decided somewhere along the line that caring for diapers has to be a rocket science; a delicate process that can easily be interfered with by the littlest additive or chemical imbalance. Women have been using & washing cloth diapers for years & years without worrying about half of this. They did not buy different detergent. They did not spend hours laboring over the laundry. They did not have the internet to research the million different ways we can make ourselves crazy. They kept it simple. Obviously I have to account for changes during the advent of HE appliances, but I need to chill out.
One normal cold wash with ammonia bouncer & Dawn. No spins, no extra anything. One normal hot wash with detergent (sometimes Rockin Green with a scent because it smells nice, sometimes Tide, sometimes whatever I feel like. But switch it up - don't stick with one thing for too long). No spins. One cold rinse & spin with nothing. That's it. That's my routine & I have everything in the dryer in about 2 hours. It's a little longer than my original routine with a regular washer but I can live with it because once everything is in the dryer I can leave it be & not worry about it until later that night. While I prefer to do it all in one foul swoop & have everything folded & put away in the morning, it's not the end of the world to fold & put away later at night (with the help of my wife if she's willing!) If I have extra time & feel inclined, I will do a Sanitize wash maybe once a month.
The moral of the story? As with many things in life, keep it simple. There are a million things we have made more complicated with "advances", from talking on the phone to making food to washing diapers. Life is supposed to be easy and the best way to reaiz e that is to keep things simple.
What have you simplified in your life?
Monday, December 27, 2010
Thoughts / Reviews
It's been a while since my last post! Hopefully I will be able to post a little more regularly after the new year, but I wanted to share a few thoughts I had over the past 2 weeks regarding some of the diapers we have been using.
By far, the ones we like the most are the BumGenius 4.0's. They have a lot of flexibility as far as absorbency goes without being overly bulky, and once they are stuffed they are the easiest to use. They are probably the best option if your child will be left in the care of someone not familiar with cloth diapering - there is not much of a difference between these & disposables as far as the actual changing goes. I can comfortably leave K in one of these for about 2-3 hours & not have to worry about leaks. I wouldn't leave her in ANY diaper for much longer than that anyway, so really not much is different from disposables with this one. Most of the time I just use one of the regular inserts, but I often combine it with the infant insert as well, especially if I know that K is going to nap. We opted for the snap closures because they last longer than the aplix closures, and I'm not that talented when it comes to sewing so I don't want to have to replace them. The snaps take about 2 seconds longer than the aplix would, and K has not figured out how to un-do these yet. Cotton Babies has been running a sale of buy 5 get 1 free for a while now, so we also have the most of these diapers & more are on the way! Even without the sale, I am finding that these are one of the less costly pocket diapers.
When we made our first purchase, we also got one of the Flip Diaper Systems. We chose the stay-dry system over the organic or disposable inserts - I didn't want to have to wash the insert a million times before I could try it out as I would have to with the organic, and the disposable insert seemed to defeat the purpose. In outside appearance, they look no different than the BunGenius diapers, and the stay-dry insert also feels a lot like the BG inserts, only thicker. (I guess since they are made by the same company it's not that surprising) I felt that this one was just OK. We use it in every diaper rotation, so I'm sure we've got the hang of it and that it's a case where I just don't like it that much. It's not very difficult - just flip it over to fit the right size in the cover (it's even labeled). In theory, you can re-use the cover & just put in a clean insert during diaper changes. However, I found that when the insert gets wet, it bunches up a lot in the front and a lot of moisture got around it. It did not cause leaks or anything like that, but I would not be comfortable re-using a cover without washing it. And because it bunches up so much, I am also not comfortable going more than 2 hours without a diaper change. If I know I will have to go a longer length of time I will either opt for a different diaper or use one of the BG infant inserts in combination. These are probably my second or third favorite of the diapers we have used so far.
We also got some of the plain, old-fashioned Chinese prefolds in combination with some Thirsties Duo Wraps as a Christmas present. Again, we chose the snap closures over the aplix. It took a few uses to get the hang of these. For me the hardest part was getting the prefold to lay correctly in the cover before putting it on my daughter. The cover is kind of stretchy so I thought I had it set right & then when I pulled tabs to close it, the cover ended up much higher than the prefold and I didn't feel that there was enough protection, so I had to start all over again. A Snappi helped with this a little bit, but that just added on an extra step for me & ended up taking just as long because you have to fold the diaper a little bit differently. I think a big part of our problem is the sizing - I think the cover we got is just too big for K, even on the smallest setting! The Duo Wrap comes in 2 sizes: Size 1 is for 0-9 mos or 6-18 lbs. Size 2 is for 9-36 mos or 18-40 lbs. We know that K is tiny, but she is 22 mos old now and weighs just over 20 lbs (finally!!), so all things pointed to Size 2. But I have to say that we totally should have gone with Size 1 - I don't know that she'll be big enough for the 2 even by the time she's done with potty training! So if you're thinking about buying these, keep in mind that they run BIG! We have gotten them to work for us, but I am nervous about leaks. We haven't had any yet, but since the cover is too big, we don't have a great fit & I can foresee leaks in the future. So I use these mostly when I know I will be at home (i.e. laundry day, while I'm cleaning the house, etc.) However, I did use them while traveling over Christmas and they did work out just fine, but I made sure that K was also in a onesie that was a bit snug to help keep everything...confined, LOL. These too bunch up in front, but not as much as with the Flip diapers, probably because of the bulk. These are the bulkiest diapers we have. And another downside to the prefolds is that you have to wash them a gazilion times before they reach their optimal absorbency. I don't feel I can give an accurate rating because of the sizing issue, but maybe with Baby #2 we will buy a Size 1 cover & have more luck!
Our newest additions are the SoftBums Echo & Omni systems, and we chose the Dry Touch Pod for both. They are another OS diaper, however instead of adjusting the size with snaps on the front of the cover, there is a hidden drawstring in the inside of the cover that you access through a slit in the very top of the diaper as well as push tabs hidden in the legs. This is taking me a while to get the sizing right. Still haven't found the perfect fit yet, but I'm sure that once I do, I will LOVE these diapers! They are the softest ones I have come across yet, lined with a super cushy fleece. The Echo is similar to the Flip in that it is basically a diaper cover with an insert, but with the Echo the insert snaps into place in the rear of the cover. And while the insert also bunches up in front, since there is a fleece lining throughout the cover I am less worried about leaks. Also this is THE TRIMMEST cloth diaper I have used yet!!! Comparable to a disposable!! No huge bulge in the front like with pretty much all of the other diapers! 
And the Omni is exactly like the Echo, but also has the option to be a pocket diaper. So you can still snap the insert into place, or you can stuff it into the pocket if you want, or you can stuff it with a prefold. Since it is a pocket diaper & sized to allow for a prefold as well, it is not as trim as the Echo. The only downfall so far is the difficulty with the sizing. But these diapers are newer to us so we have not used them many times at all. There is no option for snap closures, only aplix, so let's hope they hold out!! Both boast that you can re-use the cover & just replace the pod or insert, but I wouldn't, especially with the fleece lining. The only real down-side I'm finding is that these are the most expensive of the diapers we have purchased yet so I'm not sure we will be getting a ton of them. But I am convinced that once I get the sizing right, they will probably be one of my favorites, right up there with the BumGenius's!
If any deliveries ever make it through this snow, we should be receiving 2 FuzziBunz OS diapers soon! But more to come on that later :)
What are your favorite cloth diapers & why? Which ones don't you like?
By far, the ones we like the most are the BumGenius 4.0's. They have a lot of flexibility as far as absorbency goes without being overly bulky, and once they are stuffed they are the easiest to use. They are probably the best option if your child will be left in the care of someone not familiar with cloth diapering - there is not much of a difference between these & disposables as far as the actual changing goes. I can comfortably leave K in one of these for about 2-3 hours & not have to worry about leaks. I wouldn't leave her in ANY diaper for much longer than that anyway, so really not much is different from disposables with this one. Most of the time I just use one of the regular inserts, but I often combine it with the infant insert as well, especially if I know that K is going to nap. We opted for the snap closures because they last longer than the aplix closures, and I'm not that talented when it comes to sewing so I don't want to have to replace them. The snaps take about 2 seconds longer than the aplix would, and K has not figured out how to un-do these yet. Cotton Babies has been running a sale of buy 5 get 1 free for a while now, so we also have the most of these diapers & more are on the way! Even without the sale, I am finding that these are one of the less costly pocket diapers.
When we made our first purchase, we also got one of the Flip Diaper Systems. We chose the stay-dry system over the organic or disposable inserts - I didn't want to have to wash the insert a million times before I could try it out as I would have to with the organic, and the disposable insert seemed to defeat the purpose. In outside appearance, they look no different than the BunGenius diapers, and the stay-dry insert also feels a lot like the BG inserts, only thicker. (I guess since they are made by the same company it's not that surprising) I felt that this one was just OK. We use it in every diaper rotation, so I'm sure we've got the hang of it and that it's a case where I just don't like it that much. It's not very difficult - just flip it over to fit the right size in the cover (it's even labeled). In theory, you can re-use the cover & just put in a clean insert during diaper changes. However, I found that when the insert gets wet, it bunches up a lot in the front and a lot of moisture got around it. It did not cause leaks or anything like that, but I would not be comfortable re-using a cover without washing it. And because it bunches up so much, I am also not comfortable going more than 2 hours without a diaper change. If I know I will have to go a longer length of time I will either opt for a different diaper or use one of the BG infant inserts in combination. These are probably my second or third favorite of the diapers we have used so far.
We also got some of the plain, old-fashioned Chinese prefolds in combination with some Thirsties Duo Wraps as a Christmas present. Again, we chose the snap closures over the aplix. It took a few uses to get the hang of these. For me the hardest part was getting the prefold to lay correctly in the cover before putting it on my daughter. The cover is kind of stretchy so I thought I had it set right & then when I pulled tabs to close it, the cover ended up much higher than the prefold and I didn't feel that there was enough protection, so I had to start all over again. A Snappi helped with this a little bit, but that just added on an extra step for me & ended up taking just as long because you have to fold the diaper a little bit differently. I think a big part of our problem is the sizing - I think the cover we got is just too big for K, even on the smallest setting! The Duo Wrap comes in 2 sizes: Size 1 is for 0-9 mos or 6-18 lbs. Size 2 is for 9-36 mos or 18-40 lbs. We know that K is tiny, but she is 22 mos old now and weighs just over 20 lbs (finally!!), so all things pointed to Size 2. But I have to say that we totally should have gone with Size 1 - I don't know that she'll be big enough for the 2 even by the time she's done with potty training! So if you're thinking about buying these, keep in mind that they run BIG! We have gotten them to work for us, but I am nervous about leaks. We haven't had any yet, but since the cover is too big, we don't have a great fit & I can foresee leaks in the future. So I use these mostly when I know I will be at home (i.e. laundry day, while I'm cleaning the house, etc.) However, I did use them while traveling over Christmas and they did work out just fine, but I made sure that K was also in a onesie that was a bit snug to help keep everything...confined, LOL. These too bunch up in front, but not as much as with the Flip diapers, probably because of the bulk. These are the bulkiest diapers we have. And another downside to the prefolds is that you have to wash them a gazilion times before they reach their optimal absorbency. I don't feel I can give an accurate rating because of the sizing issue, but maybe with Baby #2 we will buy a Size 1 cover & have more luck!
Our newest additions are the SoftBums Echo & Omni systems, and we chose the Dry Touch Pod for both. They are another OS diaper, however instead of adjusting the size with snaps on the front of the cover, there is a hidden drawstring in the inside of the cover that you access through a slit in the very top of the diaper as well as push tabs hidden in the legs. This is taking me a while to get the sizing right. Still haven't found the perfect fit yet, but I'm sure that once I do, I will LOVE these diapers! They are the softest ones I have come across yet, lined with a super cushy fleece. The Echo is similar to the Flip in that it is basically a diaper cover with an insert, but with the Echo the insert snaps into place in the rear of the cover. And while the insert also bunches up in front, since there is a fleece lining throughout the cover I am less worried about leaks. Also this is THE TRIMMEST cloth diaper I have used yet!!! Comparable to a disposable!! No huge bulge in the front like with pretty much all of the other diapers! 
And the Omni is exactly like the Echo, but also has the option to be a pocket diaper. So you can still snap the insert into place, or you can stuff it into the pocket if you want, or you can stuff it with a prefold. Since it is a pocket diaper & sized to allow for a prefold as well, it is not as trim as the Echo. The only downfall so far is the difficulty with the sizing. But these diapers are newer to us so we have not used them many times at all. There is no option for snap closures, only aplix, so let's hope they hold out!! Both boast that you can re-use the cover & just replace the pod or insert, but I wouldn't, especially with the fleece lining. The only real down-side I'm finding is that these are the most expensive of the diapers we have purchased yet so I'm not sure we will be getting a ton of them. But I am convinced that once I get the sizing right, they will probably be one of my favorites, right up there with the BumGenius's!
If any deliveries ever make it through this snow, we should be receiving 2 FuzziBunz OS diapers soon! But more to come on that later :)What are your favorite cloth diapers & why? Which ones don't you like?
Monday, December 13, 2010
The Long Wait
Our diaper sprayer has been installed for about a week now, and believe it or not we haven't needed to use it yet!! I can't believe this! I never thought I'd be waiting in anticipation for K to have a messy poop, LOL. Don't get me wrong - it's great that her digestion has been "regular" lately, and I would never actually ask for a messy poop to deal with, but I want to know how the diaper sprayer works! LOL. I'm sure we'll have an answer in time :)
Friday, December 10, 2010
Semi-Routine & Less Garbage
So it's been a few weeks now & I have gotten myself into a bit of a routine with everything. We currently only have 7 diapers, which is enough to get through most of one full day in cloth. Usually what ends up happening since I don't want to do laundry EVERY day, is I will do laundry in the morning on Day 1. By the afternoon I get around to taking everything out of the dryer. We use cloth for the remainder of that day and do a disposable diaper overnight. Then the next morning after our shower/bath time, we go back to cloth until whenever it runs out on Day 2. Then laundry again the next day. So we are able to cloth about half of the time right now and I am washing every other day. Some days I admit that we are just too busy for me to get laundry done and we go an extra day with disposables or I wash at night & we have clean cloth the next morning. But those have been the exceptions.Ideally I want to build up our stash so that I can wash every 3 days and still have a few extra diapers, but that's all going to take time because this can be incredibly expensive - The cheap(er) diapers are at least $17 each which adds up quickly. Not to mention all of the extras that you have to account for - Detergent, pail liners, wetbags, wipes, diaper sprayer, special diaper rash cream...and I am sure there will be more to come! Not that I am saying it's more expensive than disposables; quite the opposite. When we get where we need to be, ultimately we will spend A LOT less than we would on disposables. But to get started can be quite overwhelming financially. Which is part of the reason we are slowly adding to our collection & not buying everything all at once.
An interesting side note: With the switch that we have made already (I'd say cloth about half of the time, maybe even a little less if I'm lazy), our trash output has been reduced almost in half! We were going through almost a full bag every other day if not more frequently. And now a bag will last almost 4 days (as long as no food is left rotting in it - I will change it if it stinks too much!). So I am interested to see what happens to our trash when we make the switch full time!
Friday, December 3, 2010
Diaper Sprayers - Adventures In Plumbing
I was so ecstatic that our diaper sprayer came in on Wednesday that I rushed to install it right away! It seemed simple enough - Just turn off the water, disconnect the hose from the base of the tank & attach the sprayer between the tank & the hose. Piece of cake, right? Well, it would have been had we a "normal" house...
Those of you who know me know that we bought the house from hell in 2007. It's a real money pit & everything that had even a slight possibility of going wrong did. Including our plumbing. Not only was everything renovated poorly, but I don't think the house itself was ever constructed correctly to begin with. Almost everything that should have been an "easy fix" went horribly wrong because something wasn't the way it should have been or it wasn't the industry standard, so many things had to be customized. So why would our toilet's plumbing be any different?! Well, we already knew that when we tried to replace the toilet & had difficulties! But I thought the exterior plumbing on it was pretty standard! Turns out it's not.
Under the info. for the sprayer, all it says you need is a flexi-hose connecting from the wall to your toilet tank. Well, we have that, so I thought we were good to go. Alas, no. When I tried to connect the sprayer to the tank, I soon realized that there was not enough room between the toilet tank & the turn-off valve for the sprayer to fit in-between them!
(For those of you who still can't figure out what I'm talking about, here is a diagram of what it is "supposed to" look like after being attached.)
My toilet tank is too close to the stop valve & there is not enough room to fit the hook-up for the sprayer.
Needless to say, I was devastated! I was SOOO looking forward to this diaper sprayer for quite a bit of time now! I was counting down the days until we could afford to buy it, and then I was counting down the days until it arrived! I was crushed & couldn't think about not being able to use it as a possibility! There HAD to be another way around this...So now, what to do?
Luckily, my Father-In-Law is pretty handy when it comes to plumbing & is willing to come take a look at everything. I'm hoping that we can just fit some kind of extender on the stop valve to make room for the sprayer. But he can't make it here until next week sometime, so I have to make it another weekend rinsing poop the old-fashioned way. Ugh!!
Did any of you have a similar issue with your diaper sprayer? What did you do to work around it?
Those of you who know me know that we bought the house from hell in 2007. It's a real money pit & everything that had even a slight possibility of going wrong did. Including our plumbing. Not only was everything renovated poorly, but I don't think the house itself was ever constructed correctly to begin with. Almost everything that should have been an "easy fix" went horribly wrong because something wasn't the way it should have been or it wasn't the industry standard, so many things had to be customized. So why would our toilet's plumbing be any different?! Well, we already knew that when we tried to replace the toilet & had difficulties! But I thought the exterior plumbing on it was pretty standard! Turns out it's not.
Under the info. for the sprayer, all it says you need is a flexi-hose connecting from the wall to your toilet tank. Well, we have that, so I thought we were good to go. Alas, no. When I tried to connect the sprayer to the tank, I soon realized that there was not enough room between the toilet tank & the turn-off valve for the sprayer to fit in-between them!
(For those of you who still can't figure out what I'm talking about, here is a diagram of what it is "supposed to" look like after being attached.)
My toilet tank is too close to the stop valve & there is not enough room to fit the hook-up for the sprayer.
Needless to say, I was devastated! I was SOOO looking forward to this diaper sprayer for quite a bit of time now! I was counting down the days until we could afford to buy it, and then I was counting down the days until it arrived! I was crushed & couldn't think about not being able to use it as a possibility! There HAD to be another way around this...So now, what to do?
Luckily, my Father-In-Law is pretty handy when it comes to plumbing & is willing to come take a look at everything. I'm hoping that we can just fit some kind of extender on the stop valve to make room for the sprayer. But he can't make it here until next week sometime, so I have to make it another weekend rinsing poop the old-fashioned way. Ugh!!
Did any of you have a similar issue with your diaper sprayer? What did you do to work around it?
Sunday, November 28, 2010
Vegan Cheese, The Odyssey
My daughter K was diagnosed with having severe allergies to all dairy & eggs by the time she was 1 year old. At first, finding things for her to eat seemed impossible - almost everything out there has some form of milk or egg in it! Her allergist gave us lists of ingredients that she needs to avoid at least until she is 2, and that list is quite extensive.
Failing to find foods other than fruit & vegetables, I enlisted the help of my vegan friends. I figured that if anybody knew how to avoid milk & eggs, it would be them. Once I learned a few key tricks to substitution, cooking for K became much easier. But some staple foods of life were still out of reach for K. She couldn't have those kid favorites like mac & cheese or pizza. And then I heard about vegan cheese....If this stuff was any good, it would open up a whole new world of foods for K! So I asked around & got some recommendations from friends.
The first brand I tried was called "Have A Heart". I bought a block of mozzarella so that I could take a stab at making pizza for K at home. Eating it uncooked wasn't so bad! It tasted very similar to regular mozzarella cheese & the consistency, although "spongier" than regular cheese, wasn't gag-worthy. And then we tried the pizza & it was awesome! If I hadn't known it wasn't real cheese, I might not have guessed anything was different!! Except for the fact that it did not melt very well, it only partially melted. But taste-wise, we give it a thumbs-up, as did K!
The second brand I tried was called "Daiya", and this came highly recommended by a friend mostly because it actually melts. This time I got 2 bags - one of already shredded cheddar, and one of the mozzarella. We tried the cheddar first while making quesadillas. When trying it uncooked I couldn't even get it down - I had to spit it out. The texture was atrocious, and the taste was not even close to any kind of cheese I have ever had. But I cooked with it anyway. Not only did it not melt, but it did not taste any better when cooked either. K didn't seem too happy with it either as she would not eat her quesadilla after tasting it! Oh no! When I talked to my friend who recommended it, she said there wasn't really much of a difference between the taste of the cheddar & the mozzarella, so this left me doubtful that the mozzarella would be any better.
But I tried it anyway, just in case it worked out. I made another pizza, and uncooked the mozzarella tasted exactly like the cheddar did - awful! Again, I had to spit it out. But I continued with the pizza anyway. This time the cheese melted a little bit better, but not entirely. The pizza ended up tasting OK - not as good as the first with "Have A Heart", but I didn't gag, LOL. I think it was saved because of the flavor of the sauce & veggies that I used as well, so I'm still not happy with the "Daiya" cheese & don't plan on buying it again!
There are a few more vegan cheeses out there that we have yet to try, and I have to admit that I'm a little scared of what we're in for! But for now, we're happy with the "Have A Heart" brand & will stick to that for pizza. Do you have a favorite vegan cheese?
K enjoying her first piece of pizza :)
Failing to find foods other than fruit & vegetables, I enlisted the help of my vegan friends. I figured that if anybody knew how to avoid milk & eggs, it would be them. Once I learned a few key tricks to substitution, cooking for K became much easier. But some staple foods of life were still out of reach for K. She couldn't have those kid favorites like mac & cheese or pizza. And then I heard about vegan cheese....If this stuff was any good, it would open up a whole new world of foods for K! So I asked around & got some recommendations from friends.
The first brand I tried was called "Have A Heart". I bought a block of mozzarella so that I could take a stab at making pizza for K at home. Eating it uncooked wasn't so bad! It tasted very similar to regular mozzarella cheese & the consistency, although "spongier" than regular cheese, wasn't gag-worthy. And then we tried the pizza & it was awesome! If I hadn't known it wasn't real cheese, I might not have guessed anything was different!! Except for the fact that it did not melt very well, it only partially melted. But taste-wise, we give it a thumbs-up, as did K!
The second brand I tried was called "Daiya", and this came highly recommended by a friend mostly because it actually melts. This time I got 2 bags - one of already shredded cheddar, and one of the mozzarella. We tried the cheddar first while making quesadillas. When trying it uncooked I couldn't even get it down - I had to spit it out. The texture was atrocious, and the taste was not even close to any kind of cheese I have ever had. But I cooked with it anyway. Not only did it not melt, but it did not taste any better when cooked either. K didn't seem too happy with it either as she would not eat her quesadilla after tasting it! Oh no! When I talked to my friend who recommended it, she said there wasn't really much of a difference between the taste of the cheddar & the mozzarella, so this left me doubtful that the mozzarella would be any better.
But I tried it anyway, just in case it worked out. I made another pizza, and uncooked the mozzarella tasted exactly like the cheddar did - awful! Again, I had to spit it out. But I continued with the pizza anyway. This time the cheese melted a little bit better, but not entirely. The pizza ended up tasting OK - not as good as the first with "Have A Heart", but I didn't gag, LOL. I think it was saved because of the flavor of the sauce & veggies that I used as well, so I'm still not happy with the "Daiya" cheese & don't plan on buying it again!
There are a few more vegan cheeses out there that we have yet to try, and I have to admit that I'm a little scared of what we're in for! But for now, we're happy with the "Have A Heart" brand & will stick to that for pizza. Do you have a favorite vegan cheese?
K enjoying her first piece of pizza :)
Wednesday, November 24, 2010
Our First Snafoo....A Bit Too Soon
So remember that wonderful explosion that happened yesterday? Well, it seems to have had a very negative effect on poor K!! She has the WORST rash she has ever had! I'm hoping that it's just a reaction to her super poop & not a reaction to the cloth! I doubt that it is, but I have to wonder a bit....We have been very lucky that she has only had a handful of rashes her entire life with the disposables, and none of them have really been that bad. Just a little redness and we put some rash cream on it & it's gone in about a day or two at the most. But with cloth diapers, you can't use any old rash cream - and what we have is definitely out of the question. So I'm doing some research now to find a cloth-safe diaper rash cream. Do any of you have suggestions? Another thing to add to the list of, "What You Should Really Buy Before Trying Out Cloth Diapers"! LOL. Maybe I'll post my official list in another few weeks! So we have been switching to disposables a bit more so that we can get her covered in cream at least some of the time. It's looking a little bit better now that we're doing that, but if it's not gone in another day or so I might just have to stay on 'sposies until the rash is gone completely. Oy vey!
Hope you all have a wonderful turkey day tomorrow! Gobble gobble!
Hope you all have a wonderful turkey day tomorrow! Gobble gobble!
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